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Sunday, October 02, 2005
A friend said the other day
"You are the most organised / disorganised person I know."
Posted by Doug at 4:13 PM
Jack seems to be going through his 12-week growth spurt. It is similar
to his 6-week spurt, although he is feeding less this time and seems
even more out of sorts. He is sleeping little during the day, and
requires almost constant attention to keep happy. He also seems more
extreme with his moods - bubbling over with happiness one moment,
screaming blue murder the next. Al's done a great job keeping him
relatively settled, although is having to work extra hard. Thankfully
his nights have been ok.
Speaking of nights, he is spending his first full one in his nursery.
Al is sleeping in there for a few days to help the transition.
Posted by Doug at 8:55 PM
Monday, October 03, 2005
Jack's first night in his own room passed reasonably well. Both he and
his mum got enough sleep. At one point around 4am Al watched him wriggle
himself from the centre of the bed to the edge, then along the wooden
side bars, all the while looking pleased with himself. He seems to
appreciate the extra room. Al has had another busy day with him, but has
managed to keep him settled most of the time. Below - Jack measures the
cot for size.
Posted by Doug at 6:53 PM
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
Night two in his own room also went ok for both Jack and Al. (And just
quietly, I've now also enjoyed two uninterrupted nights of sleep.) Al
will play it by ear, but is planning on trying to spend some of tonight
in our room, leaving Jack to sleep alone.
Al's Mother and her sister Melissa visited during the day. Melissa flew
in from the US this morning, and will be flying to Perth tomorrow to
visit our newest nephew. She came bearing more unique and interesting
soft toys for Jack that she has picked up in her travels. They
invariably seem to end up being Jack's favourites, so she certainly has
an eye for them. She returns to Melbourne on Friday, and we catch up
with her again on Saturday. If I remember right, she then fly's out
again on Sunday. The word whirlwind comes to mind.
I wonder what we will call them?
With some shopping earlier today, having visitors around, and then
Mothers Group, Jack didn't get much sleep during the day. Al says he
wasn't his cheery and talkative self - being a little irritable at
times, but that they both got through it all ok.
Posted by Doug at 7:42 PM
Wednesday, October 05, 2005
Al spent the entire night in our room, and Jack in his. As long as we
respond relatively quickly to his crying, he doesn't seem to be too
concerned about sleeping alone. He certainly appreciates the extra room
he has. Al didn't have much problem getting to sleep, but it took me an
hour before I dropped off. I wasn't feeling as settled with him being
Posted by Doug at 5:17 PM
. Jack rolled from his tummy to his back for first
time this morning – giving a look of surprise, and then looking rather
pleased with himself.
. He had his 12-week visit last week - weighed in
at 5.6kgs and 63cms (so taller than average, and slightly leaner than
average). It is a good reassurance to have these visits to see how he is
tracking. He still has some cradle cap (that largely disappeared but
seems to be coming back with his hair growing) and some eczema (rashes)
- so I have to be careful with what we put on him (clothes, detergents
his things are washed in, what we wash him in, what I eat, etc), but
otherwise going very well.
. There is apparently a growth spurt at 12 weeks
and babies are generally unsettled at this time. Jack hasn't wanted to
sleep much during the day for past few days and hasn’t been quite his
normal happy self.
. From Saturday we have put him in his cot
overnight. I spent the first 3 nights sleeping in nursery, and last
night was first night spent mostly in our room with Jack in nursery with
monitor on. Does feel as much a big step for us as for Jack to not have
him in the same room.
. Thank goodness for the monitors!
. He has taken to hiding his head in my shoulder
then peaking out again when looking at himself in the mirror, and
sometimes when looking at Doug and my mum. Think it is his version of
hide and seek!
. He is grasping things with 2 hands at times, and
turning them around to examine them.
Posted by Al at 8:29 PM
Thursday, October 06, 2005
Jack was awake last night at 2am. He had wriggled himself to the bars on
his cot, and then kept himself amused by putting his feet out. Sometimes
both feet in the same slot, sometimes using two slots side by side,
sometimes leaving a gap in the middle. Al said at one point he was
laying there with both legs hanging down the side of the cot, looking
particularly cute and sounding happy with himself. She thought of
getting me so I could see, but looked at the time and thought better of
it. My unsettled period last night was forgotten, and I slept like a log.
Here Jack chats to his Elephant - a Gift from his Grandma C.
Posted by Doug at 4:36 PM
A more restless night last night. Jack woke at 12
– a bit early for a feed, so stretched him out another hour by letting
him sleep on me. Feed and had a nappy change around 1am – by which time
he was wide-awake and not interested in sleep. Put him in cot to wind
him self down for a while. Around 2am he had moved himself horizontally
and was having fun putting his legs in and out of the cot sides, and
hanging them down - first one slot between, then two slots between, then
both legs in one and cooing away to himself the whole time. Sometimes
you just have to enjoy the moment, even if it is 2am and you're tired.
That is one thing I've really found with
parenthood - you do learn to 'live in the moment' a lot more, rather
than trying to get too far ahead of yourself, or being too focused on
things that have already happened.
He has taken to rubbing his hands together like
'Mr Burns' on the Simpsons – very amusing!
Posted by Al at 5:34 PM
Friday, October 07, 2005
Last night Jack was up between 10:30pm and midnight - to keep him
occupied we gave him his bath, time on his activity mat, and quiet time
on the floor with some of his soft toys. Thankfully after that he slept
well. He got more sleep during the day yesterday. On the plus side he
was generally less unsettled, but the negative seems to be he finds it
harder to get right through the night without a play session.
I worked from home today so I could watch the early Bathurst 1000
coverage on TV. I must admit being able to see and hear Jack during the
day is a really nice benefit, particularly as he is such a happy and
chirpy morning person. On top of that I saved a days worth of petrol,
got a haircut, and did a couple loads of washing - all while getting all
my work done.
Here is Jack enjoying his tummy time. He managed to roll himself from
his front to his back the other day, much to his own delight)
Posted by Doug at 4:32 PM
Saturday, October 08, 2005
Jack reached 3 months milestone yesterday. I’m
very happy with how things have gone thus far for all of us, and that
Jack is so happy and enjoying his life most of the time. I’m loving
sharing it with him.
. Jack seems to have gotten more attached to me
over time, but that goes both ways. I'm used to spending 24/7 with my
constant little companion now, and it feels strange when he is not
around. I'm already thinking about how much we will miss each other when
I return to work.
. He had his first Baby Gymbaroo class yesterday,
which he mostly enjoyed. Lots of new play activities for him - rolling
on a ball and inside a tunnel, bouncing on a trampoline, swinging on a
hammock, rolling down a slope, playing with maraccas, and much more! The
instructors commented that he looks a happy baby and is doing well with
his tummy time and to be rolling already. They also thought he was
gorgeous and could have taken him home.
. We commonly call him Jackles. We also use cherub
(for his angelic side) and imp (for his less than angelic side). Pop Q
thought he looked like an elf in his stripy hat and top, Auntie Lis
thought he looked like a pixie, and friend Sam called him a 'human
. Had mothers at the mother's group, and another
mother at yoga this week comment on how Jack always appears to be such a
good, happy baby, and that they have never heard him cry. He mostly is -
although he has had little crying sessions in both places. I think it
goes to show that when your own baby cries in public it feels like a big
deal – whereas most other mothers are too busy looking after their own
kids to notice unless it is really prolonged. Obviously it isn't worth
worrying about. Of course, things can be different with non-parents!
Posted by Al at 9:03 PM
Sunday, October 09, 2005
Everything is just fine when you are in your mother's arms.
Posted by Doug at 10:33 PM
Monday, October 10, 2005
I watched a documentary the other night on the Nazi death camps in World
War II. I’ve seen many programs on the same topic – but I was distinctly
aware of a change in how I viewed this one. In the past I would ponder
how I would feel if thrown into such a horrifically unjust and
This time I watched the images of Jewish and Gypsy mothers and fathers
with their young children, being herded towards death. It is hard enough
comprehending how I would feel in such a situation by myself – but to
have my wife and child next to me, unable to protect them, would be just
There has been a lot of News coverage recently about the possibility of
a world wide Bird Flu pandemic. You feel somewhat removed from warnings
– until you realise the statement “deaths will primarily affect the
elderly and very young” is actually aimed right at your new family. One
suggestion was that it would infect 30 to 40% of the population, and
could cause upwards of 40,000 deaths. How can you protect your child
Terrorism, home invasions, car accidents – they all seem to take on a
new and more significant meaning.
When I got home from work tonight Jack’s eyes lit up when he saw me, and
he gave one of his huge gummy smiles. He then turned and snuggled into
his mother’s arms with a look of contented bliss on his face. He is such
a great little guy – and I am so sorry that there are ills and dangers
in the world that I just cannot protect him from.
Posted by Doug at 5:59 PM
Ahhh – how life turns. Here I was reflecting on protecting Jack from the
world, when I should have just been considering how to protect him from
Al’s diet can be rather plain at times, so she tried some flavoured rice
cakes today. We both thought they should be ok – we were both wrong. Two
hours after Jack’s next feed on came the mournful squealing. Unlike his
“Oh my god they are killing me” scream (OMGTAKM for short), which can be
used for anything from “shift me two centimetres to the right” to “I
want to be over mum’s shoulder, NOT ON HER LAP”, the mournful squeal is
clear and plain. “Awww mum, I am not feeling good.”
From Al’s mouth, to Milk, to Jack’s stomach, something in the rice cakes
did not agree with the fellow one little bit. Al had him over her
shoulder rubbing his back for a while as the crying came in waves. It
was interrupted by small pauses where he would make mournfully and sad
“agooo” noises that would trail off and back into crying. Al’s shoulder
wet, not with drool this time, but his tears.
Distracting him worked for periods of time, so we decided to give Jack
his bath. His baby bath is getting to be too small, and it was taking me
longer to clean up the bathroom floor than to actually clean Jack, so
tonight we 1/4 filled the spa, Al hopped in, and Jack had his first big
He had a screaming fit on the change table while I stripped him off, but
as soon as his bum touched the water a smile broke on his face. He gave
his mum a quick cautious look (it was the first time she had bathed
him), and was soon kicking and splashing frantically and in utter
amazement for all the extra room around him. He was able to “swim” from
one side of the spa to the other, and throw his arms and legs out in mad
circle motions without hitting anything but his mum. The stomach ache
As I dried the little fellow afterwards and tried to dress him, he
remember he was upset about something. Out came the “OMGTAKM” scream.
Downstairs we went, Al had a quick dinner while I held a trashing,
squirming, and very loud Jack, before it was finally a reasonable time
to feed him again.
Often with food related tummy problems he’ll suffer for two feeds. If he
gets worked up enough in the first feed, he can sleep through the second
bad period with only whimpers in his sleep. That is what we are hoping
for tonight. Al is in our bed at the moment, fully clothed. Jack is
laying asleep on her, attired in a nappy, a baby wrap, and with a
blanket over them both. 9:30pm is the horrid two-hour mark. Here’s
We’re sorry Jack.
Posted by Doug at 8:32 PM
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
Made the mistake of eating some rice crisps today,
which resulted in a screaming fit from Jack when they hit his tummy.
Makes me feel so horrible when things like this happen - the handful I
ate was so not worth hurting my poor little boy.
Thank goodness we realised early on that Jack is
very sensitive to what I eat. I try to eat plain foods most of the time,
but every now and again I try something different that seems like it
should be ok, but that ends up causing a bad reaction in him. Such a
powerful reminder that Jack is totally dependent on my milk, and as
such, what I eat. Each time it happens reinforces how careful I need to
Jack has frequently been scratching himself –
especially now on the top of his head. He manages to get out of any
mitts we put on him. We tried socks over the hands, but he has now
taught himself how to get out of them too. Cutting his nails (which was
a trauma in itself) still didn’t stop the ongoing scratch-fest on his
poor little head. Tonight while moving him up to my shoulder to burp
him, he managed to scratch my face as well!
I rang our first preference childcare place today
to find out that we didn't get a place. There is still some hope he will
get in down the track - since it sounds like there were only a couple
people on the list ahead of us. Disappointing though, considering we put
his name down around March (so at least 3 months before he was born) for
a place next year, and still missed out. It has reminded me to get
moving again with putting his name on waiting lists for private schools.
We haven't decided for sure whether we will go via the private system,
but to even have the choice we need to get organised now. It is scary
how competitive everything is for kids these days.
From the moment I found out I was pregnant, it has
been like this. We were told we had to get the hospital and OB organised
by week 6 of the pregnancy (which was only a couple weeks after finding
out); otherwise we might struggle to get bookings (particularly for the
OB). Considering some people might not even realise they are pregnant
that early on, that is incredible. You have to make sure you get your
act together promptly every step of the way, else miss out on your
preferred options. Considering this year has been noted as a baby boom,
we are likely to have this issue with everything we need to organise.
Speaking of the OB, we were very happy with ours.
To have an OB that you feel comfortable dealing with leading up to the
birth, at the birth, and post-birth, helped make the whole experience
more relaxed and less stressful. Likewise being very happy with the
hospital. We will be happy to use both next time.
It is now past midnight - must get to bed before
the next feed - likely to be in 1.5 hours! What on earth am I still
doing up - craziness!! Funny the odd hours you keep as a mother.
Posted by Al at 12:11 AM
Amazingly Jack went 7 hours between feeds, from
10:30 last night, to 5:30 this morning. After staying up till after
midnight, then waking up a few times wondering why he was yet to wake
up, I didn't get the full benefit of a good night sleep. Still, it was
the longest stretch thus far without feeds. Just hope it wasn't a 'one
off', and it is the start of a new pattern. I can only hope!
Jack had his first go in the spa last night rather
than baby bath. Up until now Doug has been doing all his baths, which I
saw as a lovely bonding time between them. Jack loves his bath time with
his dad, but had got to the point of splashing water everywhere and not
being able to kick out as far as he would like. So I jumped in the spa
with him last night, and he suddenly found himself able to kick across
the entire length of the spa, and splash away to his heart's content.
Doug was still involved over the side of the spa, and in undressing him
and drying him afterwards. It also provided a welcome distraction from
Jack's sore tummy – he stopped the screams instantly once in the water.
Unfortunately he remembered once out of the water that he was upset
about something and the screams resumed until the next feed time.
Posted by Al at 6:55 AM
Thankfully Jack had a very good night. A good crying session often
seems to translate into a good sleep.
I updated my mobile phone a bit over two weeks ago. Aside the old one
getting a bit long in the tooth, Al and I want to be able to send
pictures to each other during the day. While camera phone pictures are
only poor quality at best, it seemed like another nice way of keeping in
touch, in particular with what Jack is doing during his day.
I ended up grabbing a Motorola V3. Five days later I had to return it
as the ear speaker buzzed annoyingly when the screen was lit up. I was
rather irritated to find I had to place a service call and have the
phone sent off to the manufacturer, instead of just getting it replaced.
(So much I ended up writing a complaint letter to the carrier.) Today
I returned to the store to find my service call resulted in a new
replacement handset afterall.
The ear speaker in the new phone also buzzes.
I know it is not meant to, I have friends with the same phone and those
don't make any such noise. It isn't as loud as the first one - so I am
not sure I can be bothered to put yet another service call in for it.
That's the last Motorola product we'll buy before Jack goes to Uni.
Posted by Doug at 9:22 PM
Thursday, October 13, 2005
To help out a colleague I picked up a small admin task today. I was in
the throws of a worsening sinus headache and was contemplating going
home early, but this would only take 5 minutes.
11:43am - A "slipped" mouse click, a moment of inattention, and I
started the corruption of a client's production system.
11:45am - Thought to myself - "Gee, this is taking a while."
11:48am - Task completed and I frown at the results. "Ok, that's odd..."
11:50am - The thought "Oh shit.." first crosses my mind.
11:55pm - Preliminary investigations don't look good. Contact our
Helpdesk and Support Manager to inform them of the situation. Wait for
contact from the client.
12:05pm - Finish reviewing the logs - confirms the error. I can't quite
fathom how it happened. Correction, I know how it happened, I'm just
not feeling happy with how it did. The client contacts me.
12:10pm - Client sends out company wide email for users to log off the
system. I send out a system message saying the same. Many end users at
12:15pm - Start review of the backup logs - have client write protect
last nights backup tape and load it. Review procedures, check status of
files, confer with another colleague.
12:40pm - Send final system message, shut down and remove the Production
System. Attempt to start a recovery via the application tools, but this
fails. Start the recovery manually.
13:40pm - Finish the restore and clean up - system back at 11:30am.
Client informed of new status, and of the requirement for people to
check and repeat their work from that point.
14:05pm - Copy logs to my laptop, email a preliminary report. A more
detailed report will be done tomorrow.
I expect to make the occasional mistake in my job - I just do it very
rarely. This one was triggered by simply having the mouse cursor slip
off a menu item and hit an icon instead. The resultant dialog is near
identical, and I didn't give it a close look before accepting it. As
simple as that. I am annoyed at myself, annoyed at causing the client
such a disruption, and annoyed to have thrown my schedule out so badly.
It is difficult to say I am sorry however. That would be like saying,
"sorry for being human".
Posted by Doug at 10:38 PM
Sunday, October 16, 2005
On Friday Jack woke up with a different voice. On Saturday his Poo's
became explosive and runny. Today I wiped his nose for the first time
ever. Jack didn't think much of that. When I had to wipe it again he
thought it was slightly amusing. He must have picked up a bug of some
kind - but seems to be handling it well. Aside the physical symptoms as
mentioned above, he is a little more clingy to his mum, and a little
more prone to sleeping during the day. Overall he is complaining a lot
less than what his parents do when they are sick...
My Mum and Dad came down to visit Jack yesterday, and stayed last night.
They got to see a good example of the "normal" Jack, which was nice.
His routine, personality, what he enjoyed doing, what he didn't. My Mum
certainly has a nack at settling Jack, and he seemed to remember and
warm quickly to her.
Posted by Doug at 10:55 PM
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
Al and I hear phantom cries, and have both got up from our chairs or
even out of bed for cries that didn't exist.
After indicating Jack was doing well on Sunday, we had a solemn, grisly
boy on Monday. He very rarely smiled, generally looked unhappy, and had
lots of mood swings. I felt really bad that there was nothing I could
do to make him better. Al drove to Baby Yoga, but only got as far as
the car park. Looking at Jack in his car seat she realised he would
never get through the session, so she turned around and drove home. By
the end of the day Al was running towards empty, but thankfully Jack
slept pretty well and she was able to recharge her batteries.
Today started off with the news that Jack has a new cousin named
Jackson. Born to one of my sisters in an unplanned caesarean.
Information is sketchy, so with a bit of luck we might know more after
my parents visit them this evening.
Jack was almost back to his normal self today, as is his voice. His big
quick smiles were at stark contrast to yesterday. They certainly make
you feel good. Jack's witching hour was more pronounced however this
evening, which is hardly surprising. Al is out with him walking the
suburb as I type, trying to stretch him to his bath, then feed, before
hopefully going into his nighttime routine.
Al's mothers group had their first meeting at one of their homes today,
which seemed to go well. It has helped Al a lot hearing about other new
mother's experiences, and I guess being able to talk about her own.
There are certainly some aspects of taking care of a baby that the
father's won't fully understand.
Posted by Doug at 7:18 PM
... and they are back. Jack is bathed and (at a point a little too long
coming for the frantic little boy,) is in the middle of a feed. Al was
running towards empty again before the walk - worn down by an afternoon
headache and the last few harder days. I’m not talking about slumped
shoulders or tears (I have only seen them a couple times in the last
three months), but the emergence of her more moody and snappy side. 98%
of the time Al is a calm and level headed - a fact I am eternally
grateful of. That is what makes the times she is thrown out of balance
so much more noticeable. Thankfully the walk tipped things back from the
One of my early fears was how Al would be after the birth, with hormones
thrown out of kilter, worn out by all the running around, and suffering
from sleep deprivation. I was thinking PMS every day, and it wasn't a
good thought. While Al is certainly more moody at times, overall I
really cannot complain. Make it 96% calm and level headed, 4% dangerous
Posted by Doug at 8:35 PM
Thursday, October 20, 2005
Another cousin for Jack - Jackson born to Auntie
Kylie on 18/10.
The scratch-fest on Jacks head has continued. I
have cut his nails again - will see if that reduces it for at least a
few days. He was also covered in a rash yesterday on his belly (from
clothing??) and had a heat rash on his face. There always seems to be new
things to worrying about, although thankfully none long-term or serious.
I had an up and down week. At times Jack was back
to his happy self, at other times he wasn't feeling himself. We think he
had a cold as his voice sounded different. He was more clingy and
grissly, but not too bad overall.
Most of the time I feel on top of things, other
times (mainly if I am over-tired, haven't eaten enough or am headachy /
hayfeverish etc) I can need a bit of time out. (Particularly by the end
of day and over his 'witching hour'.) It helps just to step away for 30
mins with Doug minding Jack, or change the approach for awhile, like
taking a walk. The responsibility of 24/7 care does wear you down at
times, but you can only try to start afresh each day, enjoy his
beautiful cheeky smiles and sunny nature, and continue to learn new
approaches to dealing with the issues as they come up.
Posted by Al at 6:51 PM
Jack appears to almost be over his cold. He is much happier and is
sharing his great smile around liberally again. He lay at the window
tonight while we ate dinner, watching in fascination as the rain poured
down, striking the window and the plants outside. He's found he can make
loud yells and squeals, so has been practising those today. We get the
occasional gurgled coo, but his Agooo's have been replaced with Yips,
EEEeeeeaaaahhhh's, and OOOOoooooowwwwwWWWW's. He's a funny little fellow.
Posted by Doug at 10:02 PM
Friday, October 21, 2005
A spot by the window, some toys, and life is perfect.
Posted by Doug at 5:23 PM
Sunday, October 23, 2005
Had an excellent few days with Jack. After a
couple of up and down weeks, it is so nice to enjoy him at his happy
best again. A reminder of what his 'normal' personality is - when he
isn't going through a difficult patch. Of course the harder times make
you appreciate the better times all the more. You can’t take anything
for granted – the rate of change is amazing. Just when you feel you have
gotten the hang of one stage, he is already onto the next one. You feel
you are always trying to keep up. The saying 'the only constant is
change' is especially true when watching your baby go through these
I think working in I.T. helps prepare for
parenthood. I.T. is essentially about problem solving, and this is a lot
of what early parenthood is about. Always trying to work out what to do
with each new issue that comes up, planning and preparing, and learning
from what has happened. Learning to be flexible and adaptable in your
approach, continually adding to your 'bag of tricks', and even trying to
think up ways to stimulate and vary play sessions, One trick in
parenting at times is to just try and view issues in an objective way,
rather than taking things personally or letting emotions cloud your
Jack has learnt to make loud screeching, squealing
noises in past few days, and looks so happy and proud of himself as he
does them. He concentrates so hard that you can't help getting involved
and praising him and imitating them back to him. Of course this is all
well and good, but I may well pay for this when he is out in public and
showing off these noises to all and sundry. Before I had a child I would
sometimes observe babies doing irritating things in public, with their
parents proudly look on. Now I am getting to understand why.
Jack is now grasping things really well, and can
hold toys in 2 hands, or hold separate toys in each hand. One of the
things he loves grasping is my hair. I always try to wear it up out of
his way, but there is inevitably some stray strands that he manages to
grab. He also loves playing with my face and fingers, which has resulted
in a quite a few scratches, particularly on my nose. He is also very
good at holding rattles now and loves making noises with them.
I have introduced balloons, blown bubbles, and a
few household items like spoons, small thick glass containers and
plastic cups to his play times. Was amazed when he quickly worked out
that by holding a spoon in one hand and banging it on glass in his other
hand he could make a great noise. He does love being able to make noises
in any way, shape or form. He has also quickly worked out how to grasp
the balloon with his fingertips rather than grasping them like other
toys. It's a real joy watching him encounter new experiences, work them
out, and see his resultant enjoyment.
I can't remember if I've mentioned it before, but
Jack is a champion burper. After each feed he will usually do one or two
quick large belches to make himself feel better.
Jack often protests and fights going to sleep, and
doesn't like to feel like he is being 'tricked' into it. If he doesn't
want to be in the 'rocking to sleep' position, he’ll fight against me. I
have been rocking Jack to sleep in my arms the vast majority of the
time, accompanied by tapping 2 fingers on his back and tunelessly
humming. When you get something that works in the early days, you cling
to it like a lifeline. It can get wearing at times however, and I am
starting to feel that Jack has built up a dependence of needing to fall
asleep in my arms.
Part of what has made the last 3 days so enjoyable
is that he has gone to sleep in my arms without rocking at least once
each day, or has gone happily into the sleeping position with minimal
fuss and minimal rocking required for most of the other sleeping
sessions. Part of this is Jack being so calm and happy, but I also think
I am learning to read his signs better, and varying my approach to
suite. If he isn’t ready for sleep then I don’t keep trying to get him
to drop off. I’ll put him over my shoulder for a few minutes before
trying again. While it can’t be taken for granted, it has felt like real
It helps to make the day feel easier and happier,
not to mention less time consuming to get him to sleep. Because he has
had happy sleep sessions of decent length, his play sessions are then
happier and more enjoyable also. The 'sleep issues' seems to be the
biggie for most new parents.
Still very early days, but will see how we
progress from here. Of course he slept a bit too much then yesterday, so
then had another of his high energy play time from 3:15 till 4:30am this
morning, where he energetically and enthusiastically practised his
squeals and squeaks. Again, sometimes you just have to sit back and
enjoy his happiness with him. But now I must get off to bed promptly in
case the same thing happens tonight!
Posted by Al at 8:47 PM
My Dad came down on Friday afternoon and we attended the 4wd and fishing
expo in the city on Saturday. It was a good visit. We have had three
great days in a row with Jack. He's been happy all the time, played
well, slept well, and has been easy to settle when he got tired. A real
pleasure. He's sticking with his squeals - which unfortunately from a
distance can sound a little like screams of pain. They seem to amuse him
though. Earlier Al was playing with him on his mat. He was holding a
teaspoon in one hand, and what looked like a thick glass candle holder
in the other, and was bashing them together for quiet a while, loving
Jack and Grandpop C:
Posted by Doug at 10:52 PM
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
From last night and through today Jack has replaced his loud squeals
with fart like noises. He is sticking his tongue partially out and
blowing air out around it. Of course this means he sprays drool all
over himself and anything nearby, but that doesn't seem to worry him.
Posted by Doug at 12:57 PM
Back on the 11th of October I mentioned the problems with my new mobile
phone. Well, it turned out that while the replacement phone speaker
still buzzed, as soon as I answer a call the screen goes blank and hence
the buzzing stops. A novel solution I suppose - a cheaper firmware
update instead of a hardware fix. So it is useable, and I can't really
complain further about it.
Anyway, I received a letter in the mail today from the carrier. They
apologised for the problems I had, and as a gesture of goodwill waved
the first three months of charges on the new contract. I guess that
means I really can't complain further.
Posted by Doug at 9:56 PM
Wednesday, October 26, 2005
We ate takeaway tonight – something we don’t do as frequently as I would
have thought. Al unfortunately had a bad reaction to the food. Our
primary concern wasn’t Al’s discomfort – but the horrible realisation
Jack would likely get the same germs at his next feed.
We haven’t thought to keep a supply of breast milk in the freezer, and
we don’t have any formula in the house. Poor little Jack might be in for
a horrible period tonight after his next feed – and so too his parents.
He has been in such a happy mood the last four days – a complete little
champion. When I last looked in on him tonight he had rotated himself 90
degrees in his cot, and was laying on his back with his hands half
clasped together across his chest. Angelic. We can’t warn him. We can’t
Posted by Doug at 9:44 PM
Thursday, October 27, 2005
It seems that when it comes to bugs, Jack takes after his Dad. He had no
apparent ill effects over night. He did have a midnight play session,
but that would have related to him going down for the night earlier than
usual. That is a relief.
Posted by Doug at 5:22 AM
Friday, October 28, 2005
Jack has found he can move his rocker forward by waving his arms and
kicking his legs in unison. He has also found that kicking off furniture
or his parents will scoot the rocker backwards. He has liked both
Posted by Doug at 9:25 PM
Sunday, October 30, 2005
Did some early errands today – took some money out of the bank, filled
up Al’s car, picked up the Sunday Paper, and collected some garden
hardware to give the Star Jasmine in our backyard something to climb on.
Been a busy week – finally did both Tax returns and claimed the Baby
Bonus from the Government. We also had two new couches delivered on
Friday, and went out yesterday and purchased half a dozen cushions to
match. We are very happy with the final look.
We put our old couches upstairs – where they seem to suit well. Carried
them up myself, with Al helping where she could. Now that wouldn’t have
been an elegant sight – but we managed it without too much damage to
person or property.
Daylight savings started this morning. It means my 4:45am weekday alarm
will effectively be a 3:45am alarm - until I adjust anyway. It will be a
struggle. Had a 36-hour hay fever headache that only seemed to clear
with the rain we had overnight. Both Al and I suffer from allergies this
time of year. Will make taking care of a baby more difficult.
Jack had a fantastic week – been relatively easy to settle, and actually
got himself off to sleep at least once a day. He was harder work
yesterday, but overall he’s been a really happy little guy.
Jack serves up smiles of pure joy and happiness when he sees either of
us – particularly the first thing in the morning, or when I get home
from work. I don’t think I could ever adequately describe how good that
makes you feel. It would have to be one of the most rewarding things
I’ve ever experienced in life.
Posted by Doug at 11:32 AM
Oh, and while it is no ones business, we did not spend the Baby Bonus on
couches. The new ones were ordered over three months ago, and it was
only circumstantial that they arrived now. We haven't decided what we
will do with the bonus - I expect Al will want to spend it on gambling
and alcohol, while I’m partial on investing it with a nice Nigerian
woman who is having some problems transferring money…
Posted by Doug at 11:48 AM
Jack must have realised daylight savings started
today as he seemed to adjust his morning feeds accordingly.
Jack moved into 00 clothes a couple weeks back –
it is amazing how fast he is growing. I remember some of the 00 clothes
Jack got as gifts when he was born, and they looked huge. At the time I
thought he might fit into them at around the 6-month mark – certainly
not at 3 months!
We have been very lucky to have received many
beautiful gifts of clothes, toys, bedding, etc for Jack. It was really
touching and a little overwhelming at how many people gave us gifts and
shared in our happiness. It can be somewhat sad each time he outgrows
some of our favourite little outfits, but then also exciting to start
him wearing the next lot! I really do enjoy being able to choose what
little outfit to put him in for each occasion and dressing him up (ok –
I know that is a girly thing to enjoy!).
If Jack requires a nappy change overnight I try to
do it in the middle of the feed, after he has finished one side. Aside
the fact he is prone to adding to a nappy during the feed, he tends to
be too frantic for food when he first wakes up to be able to change a
nappy before he starts feeding. Because he usually goes straight to
sleep after a feed, changing the nappy then tends to wake him up again.
With each night time change he goes through a
little ritual of protest. He cries as he is first put down on the change
table. It is as if he is saying 'I want to be feeding - why am I here
instead?' By the time his nappy is off however he is happy and giving
some of his 'uh-huh, mm-hmmm' type noises; as if to say 'OK - fair
enough, I see why I am here, it did need to be changed, and yes, that's
more comfortable thanks Mum'. I think the original crying is just
'crocodile tears' - turning it on for the purpose of communication
rather than genuinely being upset. (He does this on occasion during the
day - followed immediately by a big grin when we change the situation to
The problem with this crying and subsequent
happiness is that his cheeky grin can turn into a bit of noise practise,
looking around animated, and some leg kicking, which can all prompt a
wide-awake midnight play session. I have to hope that by the time he
finishes the second half of his feed that he is ready for sleep again,
and not in the mood for play.
Jack has definitely got specific noises to let us
know he is not happy and we are taking too long to come and fix things
for him. It starts with a loud exclamation of 'GAA!', and if we do not
respond quickly enough, is followed by 'Gung-gung-gung” noises.
Hay fever season is upon us, which is going to be
tough given Doug and I both suffer from it. For me, not being able to
take medication while breastfeeding makes it more difficult to reduce
the hay fever headaches and sinus pain, or help with that general tired
and achy feeling you get. That in turn makes it more difficult for me to
stay on top of looking after Jack. We also worry that Jack could be
suffering from hay fever as well - either directly, or indirectly from
It is now 10 to 10 and I don't feel that tired
(blame the daylight savings) but I must get to bed. Otherwise I'll be
suffering either overnight or tomorrow from over-tiredness. The days,
weeks and months are all disappearing so quickly that it often feels
like I barely get anything done. I have to forgo an hour of sleep here
or there just to get some of the personal things I need accomplished
done. Looking after Jack however is my biggest priority, so spending the
vast majority of my time doing this is far more important than any of
the other thing at this time in my life. At the same time, you need to
keep some sense of your personal self, rather than let your entire
identity be 'motherhood'. As such, I have made a few small personal
goals to achieve over this time of maternity leave, and hope that helps
to balance things out.
Posted by Al at 10:56 PM